Wednesday, February 28, 2007

Free Tour of Akihabara

As of 7.00 p.m. (Tokyo time) today I have finished writing and submitting all due term papers for the semester – so insya Allah I’ll have more free time after this to blog …


Anyway, talking about free – we got plenty of free stuff last Sunday when hubby took us to join the free Akihabara tour in conjunction with “Yokoso Japan!” campaign. Hubby learned about it from Syah and wanted to join it the previous week, but I was just too tired after one week of attending intensive course (with mid-term paper, presentations and what nots) and the weather was not that great anyway, so we postponed the trip to last Sunday.


It wasn’t the first time we visited Akihabara, of course – after all, it’s only about 30 minutes away from our place by bike. But they did took us to places we have never been before – the Robot kingdom and Tokyo Anime Center. We could not see animation artist at work because we went there on a Sunday, but yeah, we were pretty much satisfied with the two hours tour.


The free stuff? Well, for one, I won a mug in a lucky draw at the stall promoting Vaio/Microsoft Vista in front of Yodobashi Akiba (the largest electrical store in Akihabara). Despite numerous attempts by hubby – he only managed to get lots of post-it notes. Huzaifah got three fancy balloons at the same stall too.

Then, we answered some questionnaires at the Tokyo Anime Center and each of us got a nylon bag each. Hubby of course had no idea what the questionnaires (in Nihongo) was all about – but he filled the form anyway for the bag’s sake.

There were only four of us – Jason from Canada, Joshia, a Polish married to a Japanese who’s been living in Japan for 18 years, hubby and I – in the English language tour, and two free lunch coupons were up for grabs. I had already packed nasi goreng (yes, I know, I almost always prepare nasi goreng as bento everytime we go sightseeing) for lunch, but thought it would be nice to win the coupon since it’s quite rare for us to enjoy dining in a nice restaurant. I even thought that it wouldn’t be too bad even if only either hubby or I won the coupon and the other have to pay. But alhamdulillah, as it happened – we both won the coupons!

So we had a nice free lunch at Tokyo Food Theater 5 + 1 – a nice restaurant with plush chairs, soft lighting and food served in fine china. The original set menu was unsuitable for us though, so we had to request for some adjustments, which the chef had no trouble complying to. I had a Japanese Hana lunch set, comprising rice, yaki zakana, pickles, tofu and miso soup with vegetables. Hubby had an Italian lunch set made of spaghetti in tomato, shrimp and squid sauce, plus salad and bread. Huzaifah had a little bit of both plus lots of orange juice.

A little bit of sightseeing on our own after that and we were back home by Maghrib…

Thursday, February 22, 2007

Gong xi fa cai.. .

I should have posted this a lot earlier - but the truth is, it only hit me that it was CNY a day after CNY (as the lecturer for my winter course offered his wishes for those who celebrate it). Duh!

Anyway, for all who celebrate the lunar new year, have a great, prosperous, fun and healthy year! Gong Xi Fa Cai!

(Still, it also hit me that my baby might not be too pleased to be born in the year of oink oink... alamak, sorry la sayang ye...)

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Something big happened in our family during CNY - my younger brother finally got engaged, alhamdulillah.

Well, I must admit that my parents are a bit choosy when it comes to approving Abang’s choice. He went out with several girls until he met his current fiancée about 4 or 5 years ago. Sarah is 8 years his junior, is now in her final year of degree, but she has won us all over since the first meeting. She’s our second cousin actually, the daughter of Ayah’s cousin and when Ayah first invited her over to our place, it was to strengthen ties between relatives rather than wooing a potential daughter-in-law. After all, back then we kind of pitied her, being so far away from her family in Kedah, all on her own in for the first time in a big city to get her diploma. But it wasn’t long when we started noticing that Abang would be home early whenever she came for a visit…

Being the sweet, kind, polite, clad-in-tudung-labuh-Muslimah as she is, Mak and Ayah had no trouble at all in approving her to be their prospective daughter-in-law. She gets along well with me too, and she even gets along well with Ummi, our biological mother. The only problem was her family who were rather reluctant to see her marrying my brother. It had nothing to do with my brother actually – he’s after all, quite a good catch, what with doing rather well as a self-entrepreneur (despite never finishing his degree at UUM or KDU or UiTM or MMU – he said he’s just like Bill Gates; he doesn’t really need a degree to prove his worth) and basically a practicing Muslim. The reason for her family’s initial unwillingness was due to old family history - really ancient family history. And for a while my brother seemed to be the victim of sins of the grandparent/father/father’s siblings…

We tried approaching the family a couple of year ago, but sensing the heavy reluctance back then, Mak decided to wait. “Be patient, Allah is with those who are patient. Besides, with passing time, their reluctance might be thinning… If it’s meant to be, insya Allah there’ll be some opening for us some day”

It came as a wonderful surprise when Mak told me over the phone a couple of weeks ago that they would be going to Kedah to propose Sarah. Mak said she’s glad that she could get this done before coming to Tokyo, since we have been waiting for ‘the opening’ for quite some time now. Abang is turning 31 this year and doesn’t seem to be interested in anybody else but Sarah, so my parents had been pretty worried – what if the family wouldn’t give in after all? But as it turned out, Sarah herself had been pretty steadfast in her decision to marry him; stubbornly saying no to all other ‘risik’ proposals, so much so that her mother began to worry about her not marrying anyone at all if they didn’t allow her to be with my brother.

Alhamdulillah they are now happily engaged. The date for the wedding has not been set as yet – but I told Mak to go ahead even if I might not be able to return home for the occasion. Mak told me that Abang said he wouldn’t mind just having the nikah first and the kenduri later, to which I disagreed. It wouldn’t be fair to Sarah, especially since we learned that one of her uncles is trying to persuade her mother to have a two-in-one kenduri for both Sarah and his daughter at their kampong. It’s different had Sarah and Abang been studying/working in the overseas and decided to just have a simple nikah ceremony – that would be quite acceptable. But under their circumstances, I believe Sarah deserves a warm reception, whatever it is that we could afford. (Abang has been planning all along on having his kenduri in a hotel – somewhere fit to invite his business associates and hotshots – but his budget is rather tight at the moment). Mak is thinking of maybe just having it at a community hall somewhere – a really “sederhana tetapi meriah” kind of reception, and I definitely agreed with her.

The truth is, I don’t want Sarah to regret not having her real big day like one of my aunts who missed it. Chik got married a month after Teh, and a couple of months before Ayah Lang. Because my late Tok Ayah could not afford having two kenduri in two months, Chik was married off in a simple nikah ceremony first, and shared a two-in-one kenduri together with Ayah Lang a few months later. As it happened, on her husband’s side, the kenduri sambut menantu was also postponed a few months so that they could have a two-in-one kenduri with her husband’s brother. Yes, they are still happily married after 16 years, blessed with 6 kids, but somehow I felt like Chik was cheated of having her own big day…

Anyway, I hope everything will work out well, somehow, someway…

Sunday, February 18, 2007

Yuki Yuki Yuki

The decision to visit Minamiuonuma Yuki Matsuri (Snow Festival) was rather hasty. Hubby found out about it in a “Yokoso Japan!” booklet he picked up at a guesthouse in Asakusa and voiced out his desire to visit it. He had been talking about wanting to visit Sapporo Yuki Matsuri but we both knew that was quite out of our league since traveling to and staying in Sapporo could gravely burn our pocket.

He persuaded me to try asking Kak Eda in Urasa to see if we could get to stay one night at her place over the weekend. It was a long weekend after all since the following Monday was a public holiday. Kak Eda used to teach in my former college, although not quite exactly my own lecturer since she taught Accounting and I was a Law student. But we have been keeping tab on each other since she discovered my blog (and I became her blog reader too), and was kind enough to visit our house when she stayed in Tokyo (while her husband was undergoing an internship in Roppongi) last summer. Since it was already late, I just sent her a c-mail.

She called back on Friday afternoon, as I was on the bus, going for my 30-weeks maternity check-up. She said okay - that her family had no travelling plan over the weekend, no plan of receiving other guests and it wouldn’t be a bother at all to have us at their place. I asked her if she knew any single Malay male around who wouldn’t mind offering a place to stay for another Malay guy (Kamarol) who was also interested in going, but she said unfortunately, the only single Malay guy in IUJ is staying in the dormitory and no outside guests are allowed to spend a night there. I then asked her for more favour – to provide the telephone numbers of hotels in Urasa so that I could pass it over to Kamarol. We already tried searching for it in the Internet – but to not much success. Kamarol said he wouldn’t mind paying a little bit for accommodation since it would be his last chance of visiting a Yuki Matsuri before graduating in March and return to Malaysia.

He changed his mind though – which left me and hubby (plus Huzaifah) on our own. Saturday morning saw us walking to Asakusa eki at around 7.30 a.m, so that we could catch the 8.39 Urban Takasaki Line train at Ueno. The train was packed – probably due to the long weekend, as we saw lots of school kids and teenagers bringing camping equipments with them. We decided to take the normal train rather than the shinkansen because the ticket was cheaper by half, although more-than-twice lengthy in term of time. (1 ½ hour by shinkansen, which cost about 8,000 yen, 4 hours by normal train with 3 transfers and cost a little less than 4,000 yen). We had to time our departure carefully to lessen the waiting period (during transfers) and to ensure we boarded the rapid instead of local trains wherever possible.

The sights as we travelled outside Tokyo were rather marvellous – blue skies, clear streams and rivers flowing so peacefully, majestic mountains, wide open space with large houses and playgrounds…

Reached Urasa eki around 1.00 p.m. and met Abang Bad, Kak Eda’s hubby for the first time. Had lunch at Kak Eda’s place - she prepared pulut with ikan masin (yummy) and fried chicken, while I brought some left-over nasi Pakistan & ayam masak merah from the previous day. Rested and prayed before we left for Muikamachi, where the Yuki Matsuri was held.

Not much snow this year – so even before we entered the Yuki Matsuri area, Kak Eda could tell that it wouldn’t be as grand as it was last year, when they had a majestic ice sculpture of a castle with a grand made-from-ice stage. There were a lot more ice sculptures in various forms, lighted up with candles, that could be seen along the main road last year too. But then, since there’s no snow in Tokyo so far – and there might be no snow at all this year in Tokyo – hubby and I tried to make the best of what we could.

Along with Kak Eda’s kids, hubby and Huzaifah tried ice sliding as soon as we entered the Yuki Matsuri area. Huzaifah was not wearing waterproof pants nor waterproof boots (luckily I managed to borrow one pair that suited me nicely, a peninggalan by a former Malaysian who used to stay in Urasa before Kak Eda) – yet he insisted on walking in the snow although I would rather had him in his baby car. Nevertheless I was glad to note that he really enjoyed the snow. While snow is nothing new to me – I was pretty jakun to enter a kamakura (igloo) for the first time ever. The kamakuras were not as white as they were last year, and a few were actually melting as we entered them – but still, it was kind of cool to experience entering one.

There were many stalls offering free sake, amazake (sweet sake) and what nots for visitors to enjoy in the kamakura. We were approached a few times by ojiisan from different stalls, inviting us to try the sake – but I told them that we could not drink sake. “Sore wa zannen deshita ne” (A pity, isn’t it), one of the ojiisan exclaimed as he finally realized that we were not going to accept his insistent offer, but I smiled anyway and moved along. I guess we got that remark pretty often – most Japanese could not imagine life without alcohol and thus find it very difficult to comprehend Muslims who abstain from drinking.

Met some Indonesians at the stall area, not far from the main stage. Chit chatted a bit, took some group photos and then explored the stalls. Typical matsuri stalls – where they sold all kind of food from yaki soba (mee goreng), yaki zakana (ikan bakar), kare-raisu (nasi kari?) to potato fries, crepes and waffles. Then there were also some stalls selling souvenirs and some ‘kedai tikam’. Yes, this is a nation filled with people who really enjoy gambling – from having temporary ‘kedai tikam’ for young kids at matsuri to having pachinko parlors and lottery booths everywhere.

We left the yuki matsuri area around Maghrib. Abang Bad then took us to a fashion mall nearby – with only three outlets, one of it being Birthday, a store selling kids and babies stuff. Hubby looked after Huzaifah and Kak Eda’s kids while their parents went to pray and I started a shopping spree. I mean, there were plenty of stuff on sale – for Huzaifah and his adik. Fortunately, the shop was closed at 7.00 p.m., so I managed to curb myself from excessive spending (not to mention adding a lot of weight to our luggage)

Abang Bad took us for a short tour around IUJ campus before heading back to their house. According to him, many students found that completing their course there (it’s a graduate-courses-only university) to be rather tough, so much so that currently there are no JPA scholars (read: PTD officers on study leave) studying there.

Maybe the fact that Urasa is pretty rural too contributes to the absence of JPA scholars here. But I must say that after being so used to the crowdedness of Tokyo, it was refreshing to enjoy wide open space and peace in Urasa. Kak Eda told us that most of the population in Urasa are rice growers, and rice from Niigata area (including Urasa) is well-known for its unsurpassed quality. I guess all the fresh air from the surrounding mountains must be one of the contributing factors.

We were greeted with snowfall first thing the following morning. It never fails to amaze me how serene it always seem when snow falls. It was still grey, not quite sunny, yet there’s something magical as we witnessed the earth being enveloped by whiteness. Huzaifah seemed to be in awe when he first saw snow coming from the above – nothing surprising since I was pretty much a jakun myself when I first experienced snowfall about a decade ago.

It was rather mortifying, but Huzaifah decided to leave a small ‘souvenir’ in the room where we stayed by leaking while his father was changing his diaper. Normally we change his diaper on a mat – and hubby actually was using his blanket at that time, but Huzaifah was moving around so much and then all of a sudden just started spraying… I was getting ready to pray and for a while was rather taken aback by the event as I distraughtly told Kak Eda what happened. (She actually cleaned up the stain while I prayed – and looking back, I should have done that myself, but at that time, I guess I was just not thinking straight.) Not to mention that Kak Eda’s kids have to rearrange their stuff all over again because Huzaifah kept ‘rearranging’ stuff in the room (so much so that hubby had to turn the book shelves to face the wall to disable Huzaifah from keeping ‘mengemas’)

Anyway, we finally left the house after Zohor and went to a ski/sled/snowboard area about 5-minutes drive away. While everybody else enjoyed sledding, I decided to kill the time by making a yuki daruma (snowman). Due to the not-so-fine snow and the fact that I was working on it mostly by myself, I only managed to make a small one – with help from everybody for the finishing touches – Kak Eda put her self-knitted muffler around the yuki daruma’s neck, her daughter and son looked for suitable sticks for the yuki daruma’s nose and hands, her son carved the eyes and lent his gloves and her daughter finally put the sledding board as the yuki daruma’s hat.

Hubby took some photos at the ski area while the rest of us took a breather and warmed ourselves at the rest area. Huzaifah even managed to wheedle some crisps (luckily, edible ones) from some Japanese strangers when I was not looking after he was done with coaxing some pieces from Kak Eda’s kids. So, I guess it was just the perfect time to go and do some snack shopping at a supa before leaving Urasa.

By the time we were done with snack shopping and reached Urasa eki, there was still plenty of time to kill. So we had soba together since Kak Eda’s son apparently associates a trip to the eki with having soba at a stall there. The kake soba was nice – but yes, just like Abang Bad said, chances are we wouldn’t even dream of ordering such plain noodle in Malaysia where we’re spoilt for choices.

We boarded the 4.12 p.m. train from Urasa – bidding our final goodbye to Kak Eda’s family less than 10 minutes prior to our departure time. As Huzaifah started to nap, I continued reading “Girls’ Night In” – a compilation of short stories by chick-lit writers (I know, I know – I’m feasting on chick-lits like nobody’s business. Not to mention that I have also finished reading Sophie Kinsella’s “Can You Keep a Secret?” and “The Undomestic Goddess” right after I submitted my last final paper due for Fall term). More than 4 hours later, we reached Ueno eki, where we (stopped to use the restroom and) strolled around the station area a bit before taking a train to Minamisenju. We took a taxi home – the first taxi trip for Huzaifah in Japan – because by then both hubby and I were not too keen on taking the approximately 20-minutes walk, what with the heavy backpack and the chilly night.

It was a good trip – the snow might be less than last year, the yuki matsuri a scale down too, but being at the receiving end of Kak Eda’s family’s warm hospitality more than made up for any setback, so there…

Monday, February 12, 2007

Twenty yet as sinless as a baby

"Will my parents go to paradise? They are good people, you know. They deserve rewards for their good deeds, right?”

How does one answer that question posed by someone who is interested in becoming a Muslim but has a lot of worries and concerns about this and that?

I gave her rather an awkward smile and muttered something along the line of “Hmm… maybe you can learn more about that later…”

Paradise and hell is not an easy matter to be discussed. I mean, while there’s an ayat or hadith saying that whoever seeks a religion other than Islam will be one of the losers in the Hereafter, there’s also the belief in Allah being the AlMighty who finally decides who goes where. And who’s to say that the girl’s parents will not go to paradise – who knows if they decide to embrace Islam in the future, and be better than born-Muslims?

The girl has been learning about Islam on her own, mostly from books and reading materials published by Japan Islamic Center. Being a student at International Christian University and with a background of Shinto family, it wasn’t until she met a Kuwaiti guy during a short-term English course in York last summer when she started to have an interest in Islam.

The Kuwaiti guy introduced some basic principles in Islam, and she found out more on her own as soon as she returned to Japan, just as she had promised him. I was not quite sure why she picked Asakusa mosque to convert though, since her house in Nishi Kasai is nearer to Gyotoku and her university in Mitaka is closer to Otsuka. I thanked Allah anyway, for giving me the opportunity to know her and witnessed her conversion.

Twenty is the coming-of-age in Japan. It’s such a big deal that Japan even has a public holiday to celebrate people turning twenty (the second Monday of January). She chose to embrace Islam a day before her twentieth birthday. Where others might celebrate their twentieth birthday by legally drinking alcohol or smoking cigarettes, she decided to celebrate hers by refraining from alcohol and all haram substances for good.

The first time she visited the mosque was more for a chit-chat – a counselling of some sort – to discuss her concerns and worries. She is still staying with her parents after all, and becoming a Muslim means she has to make a lot of adjustments – such as not eating pork and other haram substances. She was especially worried about telling her parents because she knew her father does not look favourably at Muslims (they always show Muslims as terrorists on the TV) and her mother would be devastated because her only daughter might not be marrying a respectable Japanese guy with decent family background after all. She believed that her elder brother would be more accepting though, because he is quite open-minded when it comes down to making personal choices in life.

“I was planning on telling my parents that I’m going on a diet, thus I cannot eat any kind of meat,” she confessed. I told her that if she’s not ready, it’s not compulsory to tell her parents about her conversion. And if it’s easier (and makes sense too) to tell them that she’s on a diet to avoid them asking questions about her not consuming meat, then why not. After all, it’s true that she would be going through a new diet – the Muslim diet.

She asked about praying, fasting, wearing scarf and if I ever got bad treatment from others for being a Muslim… She shared her doubts about becoming a practising Muslim since she thinks it would be difficult to pray at her university and she doesn’t want to draw too much attention by wearing scarf, especially since she’s attending a Christian university.

I told her not to worry too much about these things, since they might hinder her from embracing Islam, where else first and foremost what is more important is for her to proclaim her faith in Allah as the One True God and Rasulullah as His last messenger. “Don’t worry too much, once you become a Muslim, Allah will guide you. Besides, you still have a lot to learn, and insya Allah I will introduce you to some other Japanese muslimah, since they might be able to offer more advice and guidance.”

There are times I felt not quite adept and incompetent as the imam’s wife – and that was one of the moments. It’s different because I was a born Muslim, with a rather religious family background. While I can imagine, I have no real experience of being anxious to become a Muslim. I have no anxieties about facing parents’ objections in order to become a Muslim. I have no worries about praying, fasting and wearing scarf in public because I had been trained to do so since I was still a child. Thus I have a lot of respect for people who become Muslim by choice, and even higher for those who become practising Muslim within a short period of time – because I realize that it must not have been easy for them…

She returned to the Mosque one Sunday morning, as she promised, this time carrying two copies of passport-sized photos and her Insurance card as proof of identification. She brought along the navy blue scarf I gave her as a present when she first came and asked me to help her put it on just before she proclaimed the shahadah. She happily told me that she had confessed to her parents about her wanting to convert the day before and alhamdulillah they had accepted the news well. Throughout the process of shahadah and her first briefing on Rukun Iman and Rukun Islam, she paid close attention to what hubby said (and I interpreted) looking oh-so-serious about learning , but more importantly she looked serene, far different from the distraught-looking girl she first appeared a few days before.

After listening to some suggestions from hubby and Rusdi (who acted as one of the witnesses), she chose Sofea as her Muslim name. It means pure or beautiful and it matches her Japanese name - Sofea Haruka. She stayed on even after lunch (I cooked mee bandung) to perform wuduk (ablution) and solat. It wasn’t until after Asar when we said goodbye, and I was glad to note that she kept her scarf on even after she left the mosque.

As I watched her walking to the bus stop, I could not help thinking – what better way to celebrate coming-of-age than to start anew as sinless as a baby…

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